We were taught to watch for liars. Look for the tells. Check for inconsistencies. Verify the facts.
Nobody taught us to watch for the frame. And that's the one that actually moves us.
The Frame Before the Facts
A frame is the invisible context that shapes how you interpret information before you evaluate it. It's not the argument — it's the ground the argument stands on. Change the ground, and the same facts mean something completely different.
Robert Cialdini documented this with a simple price experiment: a store that advertised "limit 12 per customer" sold more soup than one with no limit — even though the product and price were identical. The limit created a frame of scarcity. Shoppers didn't evaluate the soup differently. They evaluated the situation differently, before they even thought about the soup.
Priming: The Pre-Frame
Priming is what happens before the frame. It's the word, image, or idea that's introduced just before the real message — and it shapes what your brain is prepared to perceive.
In negotiations, experienced practitioners introduce anchors early. A number said casually in a pre-meeting conversation can pull the final agreed number by thousands of dollars. The anchor doesn't need to be reasonable. It doesn't even need to be related. It just needs to arrive first.
Your brain uses the first number as a reference point. Everything after is evaluated against it. This is not a trick — it's how human cognition works. The operating system runs the frame before the application even loads.
In Leadership
Leaders who understand framing don't announce problems — they frame them as transitions. They don't ask for resources — they frame the investment against the cost of not investing. They don't present risk — they present the asymmetry: what's the downside of action versus the downside of inaction?
The words change. The facts stay the same. The decision changes.
Seeing the Frame
The defense against invisible frames is named awareness. Before you respond to any high-stakes message, ask: "What am I being asked to assume before I even evaluate this?" What's the pre-loaded context? What's the anchor?
You can't opt out of framing. Every piece of communication arrives inside a frame. The question is whether you're choosing it or inheriting it.
Most people inherit it. That's the mechanic nobody warned you about.